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Hey Everyone!!

We are extremely excited to announce that we have KS Buttons for sale – all proceeds will be donated to AXYS –ย An organization whose mission is to help individuals with one or more extra X or Y chromosomes and their families lead a fuller and more productive life. AXYS has also been an incredible help to our family personally and has ALWAYS been great support of our journey and my blog.

A little bit about how this all came about:

My husband and I are huge disney fans and have recently created a Social Club back in December. One of the main perks of joining such an amazing culture is the collection of pins and buttons and the amazing support everyone has for each other.ย We have decided to spread positive awareness by selling these buttons! Already we have had an overwhelming amount of orders from the disney community. It has seriously been awesome!

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Buttons are:
1 1/2″ Round
$1.50 (includes shipping)
All proceeds donated to AXYS

Please email me with your order at: roebling.k@gmail.com

As of this moment we are unable to ship overseas – BUT are looking for options to be able to do so! If you are overseas and would like to purchase – please email me to be put on “back order”.

 

 

Thank you all for your support!!

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I am really excited to write this post, because we have hit an incredible amount of milestones the last 6 months or so!

A couple months ago, we had sought out an Early Intervention Service to get an evaluation done on Cheekies. For those of you out of the US or those who may not know what EIS is, the early intervention services help diagnose learning/development delays, autism, etc and provide therapy. Everything had been looking good for cheeks before the initial evaluation, but the services were free to us so we figured why not?
Our evaluation came back great, and there is no sign of autism or severe delay. We accepted the offer of speech therapy as well as occupational therapy because there were a couple delays in his speech (nothing crazy at all) and we are seeing slight issue with sensory in eating, sleeping, and excitement. Because of his diagnosis with KS, these services are covered by the state of Nevada and decided to take advantage of the opportunity.

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Speech:ย 
When we initially went in for the evaluation – we sensed that cheeks was a bit delayed with his words. He was saying a pretty good amount, but only on his time. He also wasn’t really putting two word sentences together. By the time we had our first speech therapy appointment, he has already progressed so much. Our therapist sees that once he goes over two words, he starts to mumble everything together. To me, I think his brain is still learning to think as fast as he talks. We have been working with him to express his words a lot more, and his therapist has been impressed with the amount of attention we have been giving him and his speech. In the past couple of months, he has progressed immensely and is starting to really say sentences and appropriately combining the words and the feeling. It has been amazing to see the progression.
Before we started with his therapist, we had taught Cheeks a couple sign language words to help him express his wants. After further discussion with the therapist, and especially after hearing and researching more information about the tip of the tongue phenomenon we have decided to really encourage more signs and Cheeks is really starting to progress in that as well! Super exciting and extremely proud of him ๐Ÿ˜€

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(Helping mom cook pancakes)

Eating:
With any two year old, eating is a struggle, a chore, and a frustration. I believe that a lot of what Cheeks is going through here is normal for his age. The problems we WERE facing – were that he didn’t want to eat anything really. We struggled to get him to eat anything but cereal bars. After really eliminating the bottle (yes that took longer than I wanted and he is still not completely weaned), we saw a big difference in his food intake, however we are still struggling to get him to eat more of a variety. We saw a nutritionist and she didn’t think that we had anything to worry about, so thats good!
I began to notice that we eats the most at lunch time at school, so I have been loading him up with everything in his lunch. As much food as I can get him to eat. Adding extra peanut butter to his sandwiches to get some more fat and protein in him, and really just making sure there is a good selection of nutrients of him.
We tried to get him to drink some meal replacement type protein packet things, but he wants digging the vanilla flavor. My worry right now is that he may not be getting enough protein. BUT, baby steps is all we can do. Our OT suggested that we don’t put a lot on his plate, and for dinner instead of putting everything on at once, bringing out each at a time. So we are trying a bunch of different stuff. One day he will just eat all 3 meals without a problem ๐Ÿ˜€

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Sleeping:
I think this is one of our bigger issues right now is Cheekies sleeping at night. We go through bouts of him waking up in the middle of the night screaming and then wanting to go downstairs to sleep on the couch.. and of course – mom has to sleep there too ha.
At first – and I’m still not taking it out of question, I thought that he was having night terrors. Our OT suggested limiting the nighttime TV and substituting with something else to see if that works. So we have a couple options there. I am also kind of noticing a pattern with his eating and his sleep. The last couple of nights he has woken up at about midnight/1am and I have noticed it was on a day where he didn’t eat much dinner. So I’m going to track that down and see what we can do. He may be waking up hungry? I don’t know. Lots of tracking when it comes to his sleeping issues.

Playing:
Huge progress at daycare and at home with his pretend play. I have been waiting for this moment for a long time for personal satisfaction and I love that it has finally arrived! Cheeks LOVES to play with dinosaurs, cars, monsters (his personal fav), and really tries to bring you into his little play world. I love it!

Overall guys and gals, we couldn’t be happier with the way everything has been going with his development. I truly believe that love and support of the parents is what truly helps development happen and progress in kids. Get ahead of anything that may pop up, and continue to grow with your child ๐Ÿ˜€

And even after some of the negative that we have experienced with all of this the last year, I couldn’t be prouder of my son for all his milestones, and couldn’t be more prouder of B and I as parents.

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We have been really encouraging Cheeks when he wants to help (*cough* child labor) with cleaning, cooking, etc. We have been doing a lot of “practicing” as I like to call it.

With us just starting the whole potty training thang.. We decided to make a “practice” board where we reward cheekies (with stickers.. His fav) when he practiced being by the potty….. Or sitting… Whatever!  We didn’t want for it to juuuust to be a potty training thing (at the time we started this… He had JUST shown interest).. So we put a few different things on there.

These are our “practice clouds”:

Cheeks loves helping me clean (we got him the cutest mini broom) and putting things in the trash… He’s also obsessed with helping B in the yard so we added a cleaning cloud….. 

We are working really hard with “please” and “Thank you” so we added a manners cloud.. The way he says thank you is quite…. Well.. Let’s just say it’s a work in progress.

Counting is obvious… He really likes the number 2…. That’s all he counts right now lol… The only time I can get him to count anything really is when we pretend wrestle and he pretend pins either B or myself ha! 

Big boy words is really any time he learns or attempts a new word OR is able to express himself with words when he is upset. We are encouraging him to say what he wants rather than point and cry… Or if he is upset we want him to tell us why.. 

Singing and dancing just makes for a fun time if we are having a mood… We like to sing wheels on the bus a lot ๐Ÿ™‚ 

  
Our board is nothing special.. But it’s working for us!!

What do you do to motivate their learning process?


  

  
The last few months have been a brutal Cheeks vs Bath battle…. The battle that cheeks had been winning… Until tonight. 

Let’s go back to the day Cheeks met shower…

It was an ordinary afternoon.. And I was giving cheeks his bath. He was having a grand ol time! Playing, splashing, and putting his hands in the stream of the running faucet. To make the long story short, he found the shower release and well…. Showered himself silly… Scaring the ever loving Jesus out of him. Since then…. He would refuse a bath for the next 4 months, Leaving B and I to give him as many cloth baths as possible… Until with agonizing pain, we force him to take a bath. The screams that would come from him tore my heart out of my body and left me in tears.

We tried different things to ease the pain. Switch to the sink, add more duckies, add bubbles (which did NOT help at all!), I got in with him… It was a nightmare… Nothing was working.

Today was a ginormous leap as Brandon and I knew we could not wait any longer to give him a bath. So we took some time to brainstorm a bit and trucked over to babies r us to find something to help. 

We decided on two bath toys, which Cheeks instantly became attached to. A swimming turtle, and a starfish water fountain. He held them through our adventure into Michael’s, and he  knew that he had two toys when he got home.

When it came time for the bath, he patiently waited as we opened them up, explaining to him these were his bath toys, and that he would use them only in the bath. I had my swim suit on and the bath drawn and full of toys when we got up there. He knew what was happening and instantly started to become anxious and hesitant. I got into the bath and started playing with the water fountain starfish with hopes he would find interest. Nope… However he really wanted to play with the turtle… So Brandon hoisted him in with me where he started to cry as expected… But a different cry this time… Not as frightened. Brandon and I started to make our tones upbeat and excited while playing with his new toys.. Making him feel that it was extremely exciting… We slowly started to see him calm down… And after about 10 minutes of solid fake fun… He was settled and playing with his toys.. He sat on my lap, making sure I was in touching distance, and FINALLY allowed me to wash his body and hair in peace.

After he was all clean, we let him play, still sitting in my lap and in the water, until he decided he wanted to come out.. Praising him on how brave he was being. Heck we even refilled the hot water! He spent about 20 min playing :)) 

So after all this time… We had our first peaceful bath in about 4 months. Small steps and patience for this little guy.. But for now, I am a very happy mamma! 

Xox


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As a first time parent, I have moments where I have severe anxiety.. that twitch in your eye..that “Oh god no!”.. I have taken the time to list out my top 10 parent anxieties for your enjoyment ((in no particular order)).

1. Spaghetti Night: I think that any parent with a toddler will know exactly what I am talking about. We are a family of spaghetti lovers and have pasta at least once a week. We usually take the time forย “prep time” before giving Cheeks his dinner. this includes a fully naked body, a bib, and our dog to clean up the thrown messes. ๐Ÿ˜€

2. Realizing you have forgotten the diaper bag: I have done this more times than I can count and literally get the biggest anxiety attack because of it. While driving all I can think is that he is going to have a giant blow out and my car is going to be covered in poop because I FORGOT THE DIAPER BAG. haha of course that’s a bit dramatic, but you moms know the type of shit that goes on in our brains sometimes ha

3. The calm before the “no nap” storm: Cheeks has really only never taken a nap once… and for those couple hours.. I just thought he was going to turn into this baby hulk. I felt like I was walking on eggshells the whole time… just waiting…..

4. Zero sound & zero smell poops: Maybe it’s just me.. but these freak me out… because you really just don’t know what you’re going to be dealing with..

5. Silence: No words needed. We all know silence is bad.

6. The sound of drawers opening: Cheeks it as a stage right now where he is finally tall enough to open all the drawers. We have all lower cabinets locked up, but now its time to venture upwards.. when your son runs into the living room with a giant knife in his hands for the first time… your heart flutters a bit. CURSE those curious assholes! *shaking my fist at them*.

7. “Hot dog! Hot dog! Hot diggity dog!!”: Remember that eye twitch I was talking about?…. ya… this.

8. When you are driving and look in the rearview mirror and your child looks like they cannot breath and are suffocating, but they are actually just pooping: This has freaked B and I out a couple times. Cheeks legitimately looks like he is dying in his carseat when he poops.

9. Parties: I always get really anxious when I am going to a birthday party or a gathering with a bunch of other parents. I honestly don’t care what other people think of my parenting style, but sometimes I cannot help but judge my own parenting by watching others and their styles. I also don’t know how to handle other children being inconsiderate.. and honestly my biggest anxiety is just trying not to lose my shit on other peoples kids.

10. Walking out of the stroller: I think right now this is my biggest anxiety. We have been slowly allowing Cheeks to walk outside of his stroller while we run errands.. but a couple of times he has thrown fits because he just wants to run free. It’s hard, and I know that the more we do it, the better he will get.. but yikes.. fits. *shivers*

So there you have it folks! My top ten parent anxieties!

Comment below YOUR personal parent anxieties!

xoxo Mammablutte

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As I sit on my comfy oversized couch eating Super Bowl snacks with my little family, I cannot help but to think of everything I still have to get done before the 4am taxi pick up. Tomorrow’s adventure… Hong Kong, China…. then straight from China to Australia.

I cannot express the excitement I have to finally (after years of dreaming of it) get out of the united states and head over seas! I have been very blessed with a career that sends me all over the states, but China? Australia? And Budapest?! Common!

There is only one small issue. I have never been away from my family for this long… and never this far. I have already had a breakdown..or two.. crying at the thought of being homesick.

So I decided to help myself feel better, I would give some tips to those of you who are traveling away from your children for the first time!

1. Make time to call or skype: Just hearing thr comforting voice of your spouse and kiddo can brighten your day and help ease the sad feelings.
2. Buy your family souvenir’s: I’m not sure why, but this always helps me feel closer to my family when I’m gone..(they are going to get a LOT of presents from China!)
3. Know that it’s not forever: You will be reunited soon! Don’t worry!
4. The older they are, the harder it is: I started traveling again at 4 months post partum. I felt that it was such a breeze when he was a newborn.. but now.. it’s sooo much harder to leave him ๐Ÿ˜ฆ be prepared for that.
5. Keep yourself as busy as possible: Go for walks around the hotel, site see, see a show… just try and keep your mind busy and not focused on missing your family.

Hopefully this advice helps someone.. I know I will be following these tips for the next two weeks!!


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Halloween is our favorite time of year. We love decorating the house and getting watching movies.. it’s our Christmas. Last year was tough because I just had Cheeks and we were scrambling to get moved and situated after the birth. This year, was just as stressful, but we were able to get all dressed up, decorated, and even took Cheeks trick or treating.. which was ADORABLE! I think next year he is going to enjoy it so much more!

We also went to the pumpkin patch as a family.. of course we went last minute and the weather was just not in our favor. It sucked actually. It was stupid windy and just kind of made it miserable for all of us, but we made the most of it and Cheeks really enjoyed the hay ride. We will definitely be doing that again!

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