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Hey Everyone!!

We are extremely excited to announce that we have KS Buttons for sale – all proceeds will be donated to AXYS – An organization whose mission is to help individuals with one or more extra X or Y chromosomes and their families lead a fuller and more productive life. AXYS has also been an incredible help to our family personally and has ALWAYS been great support of our journey and my blog.

A little bit about how this all came about:

My husband and I are huge disney fans and have recently created a Social Club back in December. One of the main perks of joining such an amazing culture is the collection of pins and buttons and the amazing support everyone has for each other. We have decided to spread positive awareness by selling these buttons! Already we have had an overwhelming amount of orders from the disney community. It has seriously been awesome!


Buttons are:
1 1/2″ Round
$1.50 (includes shipping)
All proceeds donated to AXYS

Please email me with your order at:

As of this moment we are unable to ship overseas – BUT are looking for options to be able to do so! If you are overseas and would like to purchase – please email me to be put on “back order”.



Thank you all for your support!!


One year. I survived a whole year of being a new mom. Below are some of the more important things you might learn your first year of being a new parent..

1. Mom brain is no joke: I swear there are times where I just lay my head down in shame at some of the things I do, say, or not do. I have driven all the way to work with Cheeks still in the car, bypassing daycare all together. I have left my wallet and my keys in the diaper bag and left them at daycare. I have forgotten my bra. I have made up my own words. And I have most definitely forgotten to put my eyebrows on in the morning. From what I have heard, this only gets worse.. joy. And don’t think you are in the clear dads!.. Dad brain is just as strong! Sometimes I think Brandon is worse than I am!

2. Sometimes showering doesn’t happen: I don’t even think it’s solely because you don’t have time. For me, there were nights and days where showering just seemed to hard and laying in bed for an extra 10 min was the better option.

3. Baby poop is weird: I mean… I have seen poop crumble, stick, smell like death, and create the devil of all diaper rashes all in one day. There are times where I am impressed with what Cheeks was able accomplish in 2 minutes. I have also learned that watching a baby poop is one of the more funny things your baby will do.

4. There is nothing worse than the car seat: I don’t know if it is just me, but every time we get out of a store and head to the car.. the moment I see that damn car seat dramatic music plays and taunts me in my head (you know the music I’m talking about.. the one that plays in Step Brothers when he sees his drums have been touched). Seriously though… I literally cannot wait for the day that Cheeks can put his own damn self in his car seat. Brandon and I just look at each other in a dead stare and eye fight over who gets to put him in the car. I have never seen two adults fight to shotgun putting the groceries in the trunk. “Oh! I got groceries! You get Cheeks!” boom. win.

5. No matter how hard you try, you’ll never be on time: I think this goes hand in hand with mom brain. I feel like I never have everything completely in order.. most of the time I don’t. I will get Cheeks into the car and realize I had forgotten to pack his lunch, or forgotten the diaper bag, or my phone, or he will just decide to shit before takeoff. It’s a never ending battle and I have come to the realization that I.. will probably never be on time again.

6. Nothing is cooler than seeing your child develop: Watching Cheeks become his own individual has seriously been one of the coolest things I think I will ever go through. They learn their surroundings and what it is to live as a human and that’s just too cool. Cheeks laughed at himself the other day.. he truly cracked himself up! Watching him discover humor.. I loved it.

7. You’ll always think, “I created you..” and then cry: This might just be me… but man. I have had these moments with him where I just look into his eyes as he is smiling at me.. and melt. I’ll think of the whole pregnancy and development process and end up crying my eyes out because of how cool this whole process is. Woman have one of the most amazing gifts we could have been given, and that is creating life. I created that little man in my belly who just laughed at himself for making weird noises… it’s an emotional thing.

8. You’ll make a ton of rookie moves: It’s going to happen folks. Don’t beat yourself up about it.. move forward and wait for the next rookie move.

9. Family will become more important: For me, I have always been a family oriented person, but at the same time I have been a very independent person. After having Cheeks, I have found myself wanting to surround myself with family more. Creating a family unit has also become extremely important to Brandon and me. We want to create traditions, do more family activities, etc.

10. You will become a better you: This was a huge one for me this last year. I have changed a lot subconsciously and for the better. I matured when I needed to most, created stronger and more heartfelt relationships, and most importantly I have been able to love myself more than I ever have.

When they say time goes much faster after you become a parent, they are not lying. Take it all in.. breathe… and to enjoy every moment, good or bad.

If you are reading this blog, you are probably searching for an answer to how you can lose your baby weight, your baby belly, and how to get your body back.
I am asked constantly how I lost my weight, what I eat, and what I do to work out. So here you go ladies… here are my thoughts on losing your weight.

1. Dedication: Ask yourself how dedicated you are. Do you know what it takes to lose 40 lbs? Baby weight or not, you have to be dedicated to hit your main goal.  Right now, I cannot dedicate myself to working out 5 days a week.. and I am ok with that. That only means my main goal is going to take a little longer to accomplish.. and THAT’S OK. Be real with yourself.

2. Patience: We cannot expect our body to just shrink or transform over night.. Expect 3-6 months to notice a difference in your body, emotions, and energy level.

3. Forget numbers on the scale.. you know what? just throw that thing away: This was huge for me. When I became pregnant, I lost almost all muscle I had spent years building. MUSCLE WEIGHS MORE THAN FAT…. I have maintained he same weight for 4 months – though I have lost inches… and that is because I am rebuilding that muscle. What is that number really doing for me anyways? It doesn’t mean fucking anything. Fuck the scale.

4. Change your relationship with food: Losing weight, does NOT mean don’t eat. You want to know how I dropped 65 lbs in 4 months after having my son? I ate. And A LOT. Your body needs to be fueled. Would you fill up your tank with $5 of gas to drive 50 miles? Ya no. How are you going to go through a whole day, plus working out on only 1000 calories a day? Right now I eat about 1900-2000 Calories.  Eat god dammit EAT! AND DRINK FUCKING WATER. Seriously just do it.
You want to know how I was able to change my relationship with food? Flexible dieting. Interested in not feeling guilty about having donuts every day? Here are some great links for you to check out!Flexible Dieting Manual by Kyle Hunt :
How to form a healthy relationship with food by Christina Hartman:
My Favorite Trainers website:

5. Love yourself: “Energy flows, where attitude goes.” One of the best quotes I have ever heard and to this day live by. Positivity and a positive outlook on yourself is key to this whole process. We have this awesome ability to create another human being… how fucking cool is that?

Hopefully this helps some of you


After a long night of teething fussiness, we are finally awake this morning. The air is crisp, the sun is out, the cats are finally happy with food, and I have my coffee…. My sweet sweet coffee………..
Anyways, Brandon has the feeding shift this morning and everything seems to be going fairly smooth. He finishes, burps him, and starts playing with the now happy, Mr. Cheeks. So where does this story turn do you ask? With one kiss. Mr. Cheeks gives his I want kisses face and so Brandon brings him in to give him kisses…. And that’s when Mr. Cheeks changed…. In a blink of an eye… He had spit up all over Brandon’s face! Soooooo close to hitting the ol mouth. This isn’t when he becomes the asshole – it’s when he turns around to look at me with the most devilish- problem child look and giggles! He knew what he was doing….. He knew…..

The almighty post pregnancy weight loss mission! I have been able to lose 65lbs since having Mr. Cheeks and while I am not 100% happy with my new bod yet, I’m pretty fucking proud of myself! Especially since my lazy ass hasn’t really done anything workout wise.

Honestly, the #1 reason why I have gotten this far is one thing and one thing only. EATING. As most women do, I struggle with body image and had a horrible relationship with food. I can go on about my past anorexia issue blah blah blah that was the past and the same damn story we have heard numerous times – but the bottom line is that I have had to eat to lose the baby weight. I eat 5 times a day and try REALLY hard not to eat like shit. But I’m only human… and sometimes Panda Express haunts me……. Oh orange chicken you jerk…. you delicious jerk.

I still have a long way to go but here is what I have done thus far and what I did when I was pregnant to speed along the process.

1. WALK. WALK. WALK. All I did was walk when I was pregnant. Not only did it help with a quick labor and delivery, but I was able to keep active enough to not shock my body after 6 weeks postpartum.

2. Breastfeed. We all know it helps with weight loss along with all the other amazing benefits it has for your baby!

3. EAT. Your body needs fuel to do anything. Eat 3 solid good meals and snacks in between. Lay off the pop, sweets, junk food, etc. And make veggies your best friend.

4. Exercise as much as you can. Take a walk with the baby or get a sitter to take a walk by yourself. Do yoga, HIIT workouts (there are sooo many online home workouts you can get off of YouTube). ANYTHING is better then nothing!
I have just started running now that I have a slight schedule. Working out has been my struggle the last couple of months. ITS TIME TO GET TO BUSINESS! I’m making a commitment to myself to work out 3 days a week min.

5. Remember it takes time. Seriously… it took us 9 months to gain the weight, its going to take just as long to go back to normal.

******* One major suggestion I have that I did and it helped SOOOOO much with bringing my uterus down and tightening the brain belly was the belly binder! Bind your belly! Trust me! I used the Squeem Belly Binder *********

Below are my progression pictures from 40 Weeks pregnant the 1- 5 Months Postpartum. Remember to believe in yourself and keep as motivated and dedicated as possible! Figuring out your changing schedule is hard, but we can do it!!!

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To all the amazing and wonderful parents with children that have Down Syndrome, thank you! Thank you for your hard work and dedication to loving your amazing child!

I am going to use this time to express my own opinions and frustrations about downs..(warning! You do not have to agree with me) When I was asked if I wanted to take the test to see if Aiden had downs (first of all many Dr.’s will not ask) I politely replied with ‘no.’ This then turned into a short conversation with my Dr. as to why she was surprised I had said no. She began to tell me that many people want to know to prepare themselves or to make an alternative decision.

After my apt I did a google search on statistics and what I found was surprising to me. The percentage of families who terminate their pregnancies because they have found out that the baby either MIGHT or does have downs syndrome was so incredibly heartbreaking. I just can’t wrap my head around it.

I was so upset for a couple of weeks after reading up on this. I would have been absolutely blessed to have been chosen to raise such a special child. A child that needs more love, more care, and definitely more patience. It would have been an honor.

Of course it would have been hard. There would have been moments where I would have wanted to give up and call it a day. There would have been times where I cried because I didn’t know what to do and it just seemed too hard to manage…….. but….. aren’t those the same feelings a mother gets who is raising a “normal” child? ………

I know I’m going to get a lot of backlash by calling my child an asshole – but I just calls it likes I sees it.

It started at 1:30am. Fussy and then laughter. Not quite the asshole yet. I was able to get him back to sleep thank god. In the clear you say? Nope. 4:30am awake again. I put him in bed with me where he begins to just slap my face the whole time… And claw me with his raptor claws (I swear I have to trim those things twice a week). Asshole? No not quite –
Finally at 5am I get up (did I mention we just had the time change…. So my body is still at 4am?) and get his bottle ready. I start to feed him and what does he do?!! Fall asleep. Mid feed. I know what you’re thinking… Asshole? No not yet.

So now I’m awake and it’s too late for me to go to back to bed, so I’m watching tv. He is next to me peacefully sleeping – looking adorable – so I give him a little kiss on his forehead… And he scowls!!!! Straight up sleep mean mug?


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