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Hey Everyone!!

We are extremely excited to announce that we have KS Buttons for sale – all proceeds will be donated to AXYS – An organization whose mission is to help individuals with one or more extra X or Y chromosomes and their families lead a fuller and more productive life. AXYS has also been an incredible help to our family personally and has ALWAYS been great support of our journey and my blog.

A little bit about how this all came about:

My husband and I are huge disney fans and have recently created a Social Club back in December. One of the main perks of joining such an amazing culture is the collection of pins and buttons and the amazing support everyone has for each other. We have decided to spread positive awareness by selling these buttons! Already we have had an overwhelming amount of orders from the disney community. It has seriously been awesome!


Buttons are:
1 1/2″ Round
$1.50 (includes shipping)
All proceeds donated to AXYS

Please email me with your order at:

As of this moment we are unable to ship overseas – BUT are looking for options to be able to do so! If you are overseas and would like to purchase – please email me to be put on “back order”.



Thank you all for your support!!


I am really excited to write this post, because we have hit an incredible amount of milestones the last 6 months or so!

A couple months ago, we had sought out an Early Intervention Service to get an evaluation done on Cheekies. For those of you out of the US or those who may not know what EIS is, the early intervention services help diagnose learning/development delays, autism, etc and provide therapy. Everything had been looking good for cheeks before the initial evaluation, but the services were free to us so we figured why not?
Our evaluation came back great, and there is no sign of autism or severe delay. We accepted the offer of speech therapy as well as occupational therapy because there were a couple delays in his speech (nothing crazy at all) and we are seeing slight issue with sensory in eating, sleeping, and excitement. Because of his diagnosis with KS, these services are covered by the state of Nevada and decided to take advantage of the opportunity.

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When we initially went in for the evaluation – we sensed that cheeks was a bit delayed with his words. He was saying a pretty good amount, but only on his time. He also wasn’t really putting two word sentences together. By the time we had our first speech therapy appointment, he has already progressed so much. Our therapist sees that once he goes over two words, he starts to mumble everything together. To me, I think his brain is still learning to think as fast as he talks. We have been working with him to express his words a lot more, and his therapist has been impressed with the amount of attention we have been giving him and his speech. In the past couple of months, he has progressed immensely and is starting to really say sentences and appropriately combining the words and the feeling. It has been amazing to see the progression.
Before we started with his therapist, we had taught Cheeks a couple sign language words to help him express his wants. After further discussion with the therapist, and especially after hearing and researching more information about the tip of the tongue phenomenon we have decided to really encourage more signs and Cheeks is really starting to progress in that as well! Super exciting and extremely proud of him 😀

(Helping mom cook pancakes)

With any two year old, eating is a struggle, a chore, and a frustration. I believe that a lot of what Cheeks is going through here is normal for his age. The problems we WERE facing – were that he didn’t want to eat anything really. We struggled to get him to eat anything but cereal bars. After really eliminating the bottle (yes that took longer than I wanted and he is still not completely weaned), we saw a big difference in his food intake, however we are still struggling to get him to eat more of a variety. We saw a nutritionist and she didn’t think that we had anything to worry about, so thats good!
I began to notice that we eats the most at lunch time at school, so I have been loading him up with everything in his lunch. As much food as I can get him to eat. Adding extra peanut butter to his sandwiches to get some more fat and protein in him, and really just making sure there is a good selection of nutrients of him.
We tried to get him to drink some meal replacement type protein packet things, but he wants digging the vanilla flavor. My worry right now is that he may not be getting enough protein. BUT, baby steps is all we can do. Our OT suggested that we don’t put a lot on his plate, and for dinner instead of putting everything on at once, bringing out each at a time. So we are trying a bunch of different stuff. One day he will just eat all 3 meals without a problem 😀


I think this is one of our bigger issues right now is Cheekies sleeping at night. We go through bouts of him waking up in the middle of the night screaming and then wanting to go downstairs to sleep on the couch.. and of course – mom has to sleep there too ha.
At first – and I’m still not taking it out of question, I thought that he was having night terrors. Our OT suggested limiting the nighttime TV and substituting with something else to see if that works. So we have a couple options there. I am also kind of noticing a pattern with his eating and his sleep. The last couple of nights he has woken up at about midnight/1am and I have noticed it was on a day where he didn’t eat much dinner. So I’m going to track that down and see what we can do. He may be waking up hungry? I don’t know. Lots of tracking when it comes to his sleeping issues.

Huge progress at daycare and at home with his pretend play. I have been waiting for this moment for a long time for personal satisfaction and I love that it has finally arrived! Cheeks LOVES to play with dinosaurs, cars, monsters (his personal fav), and really tries to bring you into his little play world. I love it!

Overall guys and gals, we couldn’t be happier with the way everything has been going with his development. I truly believe that love and support of the parents is what truly helps development happen and progress in kids. Get ahead of anything that may pop up, and continue to grow with your child 😀

And even after some of the negative that we have experienced with all of this the last year, I couldn’t be prouder of my son for all his milestones, and couldn’t be more prouder of B and I as parents.



Hello All!

I cannot believe we are hitting the 18 month mark ((actually 19 months this month))! It feels like just yesterday I was finding out about my pregnancy.

We had a fantastic check up Monday! Dr. Says he looks perfect clocking in at 22.6 lbs and 32.5″ 😀 Yes, Cheeks is getting long!

As far as his development goes, I honestly could not be any happier!

I cannot stop this kid from babbling! Pretty soon he is going to be saying sentences and its going to freak me out!

He is so smart.. i know parents say this all the time, but he really is! He knows which are my shoes and which are B’s and always sorts them and sets our shoes by us. It’s a trip!

Mr. Cheeks is obsessed with WWE wresting! It’s adorable and hilarious at the same time! He wrestles with anything he can! Toilet paper, pillows, the couch… US! Its adorable!

He is just enjoying life at the moment.. being a little boy!


We have not yet taking Cheeks to the specialist out of state. We are still trying to figure out what our new insurance is going to cover and honestly, it’s not a pressing issue for us right now. As a traveling mom its hard to find the right time to take him and honestly, there is nothing serious going on right now to make it a complete #1 priority. Not to say it isn’t important to us, because it is obviously, but we are enjoying the path we are given at the moment. We will keep you all updated as time goes.

Thats about it guys and gals! Thanks for reading!


The last few months have been a brutal Cheeks vs Bath battle…. The battle that cheeks had been winning… Until tonight. 

Let’s go back to the day Cheeks met shower…

It was an ordinary afternoon.. And I was giving cheeks his bath. He was having a grand ol time! Playing, splashing, and putting his hands in the stream of the running faucet. To make the long story short, he found the shower release and well…. Showered himself silly… Scaring the ever loving Jesus out of him. Since then…. He would refuse a bath for the next 4 months, Leaving B and I to give him as many cloth baths as possible… Until with agonizing pain, we force him to take a bath. The screams that would come from him tore my heart out of my body and left me in tears.

We tried different things to ease the pain. Switch to the sink, add more duckies, add bubbles (which did NOT help at all!), I got in with him… It was a nightmare… Nothing was working.

Today was a ginormous leap as Brandon and I knew we could not wait any longer to give him a bath. So we took some time to brainstorm a bit and trucked over to babies r us to find something to help. 

We decided on two bath toys, which Cheeks instantly became attached to. A swimming turtle, and a starfish water fountain. He held them through our adventure into Michael’s, and he  knew that he had two toys when he got home.

When it came time for the bath, he patiently waited as we opened them up, explaining to him these were his bath toys, and that he would use them only in the bath. I had my swim suit on and the bath drawn and full of toys when we got up there. He knew what was happening and instantly started to become anxious and hesitant. I got into the bath and started playing with the water fountain starfish with hopes he would find interest. Nope… However he really wanted to play with the turtle… So Brandon hoisted him in with me where he started to cry as expected… But a different cry this time… Not as frightened. Brandon and I started to make our tones upbeat and excited while playing with his new toys.. Making him feel that it was extremely exciting… We slowly started to see him calm down… And after about 10 minutes of solid fake fun… He was settled and playing with his toys.. He sat on my lap, making sure I was in touching distance, and FINALLY allowed me to wash his body and hair in peace.

After he was all clean, we let him play, still sitting in my lap and in the water, until he decided he wanted to come out.. Praising him on how brave he was being. Heck we even refilled the hot water! He spent about 20 min playing :)) 

So after all this time… We had our first peaceful bath in about 4 months. Small steps and patience for this little guy.. But for now, I am a very happy mamma! 



I am a creative and crafty person by nature.. but mostly I am just very cheap. I will do anything to save a buck, espcially now having my son.
In light of numerous friends of mine joining the mom club, I thought I’d share two of my favorite money saving recycled hacks!


1. Plastic baby food jars make awesome baby tupperwear!
Our old sitter turned us onto this and I dont know what I would do without them to be honest. I put his cereal in them for traveling, I pack his lunch in them, If you make your own baby food you can store and freeze them, I even use them for my bobby pins ha. I use these things for everything.
Just take of the label, throw them in the dish washer, and they are ready for use!


2. Breast milk storage containers make traveling with formula so much easier!
Im sure there are containers out there already, but this has been my serious life saving hack. I can fit the exact amount of formula in this for a 6oz bottle. It makes it easier to get a bottle ready when you’re in a hurry or in a bind while traveling with a baby. You can quicky empty out the pre-measured exact amount and move on with your day. I recieved these from the Dr. Bag the obgyn gives you.  Sometimes the big formula brands send them out with formula as well.  I believe these are for storing breast milk. I love them because they hardly take up any space and were free! Free and useful are key here!

Hope you all enjoyed!

I couldn’t believe my ears as I heard my girlfriend talk about a server at a restaurant who almost poured hot food over her sons head. As she kept on with her story I could feel her pain, her fear, and her maternal instinct. I prayed this would never happen to me…

Well… unfortunately my time had come.
Brandon, Cheeks, and myself were eating at popular burger restaurant over the weekend. We have eaten at this location many times before and have never had a problem receiving awesome servers and this time was no different, our server was the only good thing about our experience that night.
I was already a little on edge because our hostess had seated us A. at the worst table in the area (I am just one of those people who hate when other people are two feet away when we are eating) and B. at a table where the only spot for Cheeks’ high chair was smack dab in the middle of server traffic (I am very familiar with the restaurant life as I worked at a very popular steak house for 3 years back in the good ol days. This is not only annoying to me, but I know how annoying it is to the servers as well). So I am already in bitch mode.
As I mentioned above, my time had come. Our food was ready, and as usual, it was not our server giving us the food. The food runner and an obvious newbie clumsily walked up right behind Cheeks with her tray and hand only inches from his hair. She started serving us our giant hot burger plates..  She sets down my plate while keeping Brandon’s on the tray. She is trying to balance with one hand but all I could see was a shaky wrist and the tray unbalanced and wobbly…. OVER MY ONE YEAR OLD SON’S HEAD.
At this point I am fuming and just looking at her in disbelief.
I gently start to move her tray away from his head and firmly say, “Can you please NOT hover over my sons head with your tray?” We make eye contact, and instead of apologizing for being a fucking idiot (ya I said it), she ignores me and looks at me with her blank eyes like I am this crazy bitch woman. Was I? Fuck ya I was! Did I have every right to be? Yes, yes I did.
Moral of the story: Restaurant servers.. I completely understand how much of a pain in the ass serving can be –  I have been there, I have worked doubles, I have had horrible customers……. but please, for the love of God, do NOT hover your trays over babies.


It’s a parent’s worse nightmare. It stops you in your tracks and sends shivers up your spine and tingles down to your toes. You’re just standing in the middle of a dark and empty living room stunned in fear. After a second of silence, you start to continue on your original path. It happens again and this time your heart is pumping faster than before. You try and make sense of it, but there is just no explanation.
“……. Demons…… “you think to yourself very.. very dramatically.
That toy has not been touched for hours.. my mother brought this toy.. its from a garage sale… everyone knows what happens with certain garage sale toys………………….Demonic. possession.
Do you go turn it off? Of course you don’t! You have ran back to your room and jumped to your bed from 4 feet away because god forbid the demon has morphed through the walls and has now manifested under the bed to grab your ankles and take you into the underworld where all the demons have plotted to murder you. Can’t risk it.
After about 2 hours of completely freaking yourself and continuously seeing shadow figures in the dark, you have finally fallen asleep. Dream land isn’t so bad at this point; casual and dreamy.
The baby starts to move and you hear him through the monitor. “OH GOD NO!”…. by now you are long gone from dreamland and right back to fear island. Lying on your back with the covers over your face imagining the second when you hear ‘that’ voice come through the monitor.
Contemplating for a couple minutes whether or not you should go to the nursery……

Eh. I can be mom of the year next year..

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